Maci Bookout simply wants what is finest for her boy.
For all of her kids, undoubtedly. However in this specific case, her first-born child – the son who initially made her a (rather unwilling) star on MTV.
As anybody who has followed the journey of this Teenager Mom OG star knows, she shares 12- year old Bentley with her ex, Ryan Edwards.
Shares, in a way of speaking.
Given that Ryan has been jailed on many events and fought substance abuse problems for many years, Maci has actually done the lion’s share of the parenting.
And these days, due to the previously mentioned long-running issues that have actually afflicted Edwards, Maci is not even lettiing Bentley see his dad.
Or, to hear Bookout describe it, as she did this past Tuesday night on the season premiere of Teenager Mom OG, Bentley simply doesn’t desire to see his papa.
This turn of occasions led Ryan’s daddy, Larry, to declare that Maci is keeping Bentley away from his side of the family out of spite – but Bookout states the adolescent youngster really is calling the shots.
” I have raised Bentley to be a private, to be himself and it’s fine to feel however he feels,” Maci informed In Touch a couple of days earlier.
” Honestly, I have actually not raised him to offer anybody the capability or the power to affect him, not even me.”
” So there’s that. Truly absolutely nothing else to say.”
In a follow-up interview with this same tabloid, Maci acknowledges that Bentley and Ryan have an “uneasy” relationship.
Her boy is now attending therapy sessions in order to smooth things out.
” It happened because Bentley had actually shared concerns with me and [my husband] Taylor McKinney and was feeling really uncomfortable around Ryan and had actually discussed that he didn’t really want to be around him or see him and stuff like that,” Bookout informs In Touch.
Maci declares she told Bentley that she comprehends his doubt, provided the troubled relationship she’s had with Ryan.
However Edwards is among his parents.
He can’t just never ever see him once again.
What Bentley can do, however, is take specific actions toward strengthening his relationship with his daddy.
Meaning what, precisely?
” Bentley began therapy with the supreme goal that [he] and Ryan would go to therapy together, simply the two of them to have their own safe space.”
In that kind of setting, possibly they could “talk and construct the relationship or do whatever they wanted to or required to do,” Maci says.
” And that’s what I truly wished to do.”
Way back in the day, in October 2008, audiences satisfied Maci and Ryan on 16 & Pregnant, throughout which time they invited Bentley.
Maci is now happily married to Taylor and they share two kids of their own, Jayde, 5, and Maverick, 4.
She’s moved way on from Ryan in a romantic sense, however she’ll constantly be connected to him due to their shared boy and she’ll constantly need to think of him due to the fact that he needs to play some function in Bentley’s life.
She does recognize this.
Bentley isn’t a baby any longer.
He’s old enough to detect a lot of things, and he’s the one holding himself back these days, Bookout insists.
” I could not tell you the last time the words, ‘I wan na see my father’ came out of his mouth,” Bookout said on Tuesday.
Harsh, but the truth frequently is. The subject of seeking professional assistance then came up on air.
” He does not wish to see his dad anymore unless he gets treatment,” Maci restated on this emotional episode.
The distressing part of this (well, all of it is disturbing) is that Ryan’s problems have actually extended beyond addiction.
Other times, even when he has seen Bentley, he’s been accused of being straight up imply to the kid.
Furthermore, he’s got other custody concerns in your home.
His partner Mackenzie Standifer has custody issues of her own, we ought to say – ones that do not have anything to do with Maci (though Maci and Mackenzie have beef that is a topic for another time).
The daddy of her kid from a previous relationship also has concerns about what the Teenager Mother OG world is doing to their child Hudson.
The long and short of it? It’s all a big mess.
Hopefully Ryan will swallow his pride, take Maci’s guidance and speak with someone. If nothing else, opening the lines of communication and looking inward will help him as a dad and as an individual.